Delle and I have been hosting weddings as much as corporate events, and we really have a soft spot for weddings. We enjoy doing it because you see the celebration, the goodwill, the professions of love, the happy beginnings. Of course we never know what actually happens AFTER the wedding, whether it actually ends up happily ever after or the start of the proverbial living hell. But we don’t stick around for that anymore. So weddings are such bursts of positivity for us. At more than once or twice, we were moved to tears by some of the more memorable ones. I’ve always wanted to post about it, but I never got the urge until tonight.
I just came home from hosting a wedding. It was a wedding of two successful doctors, one in his 50’s and one in her 40’s. And the bride was stunningly beautiful, smart, classy, successful, warm, articulate, sexy…you name it. You really wonder why someone like her, who’s obviously a catch, would remain single for so long. For sure, men would’ve fallen head over heels in love with her easily. So she seemed to me quite a puzzle. Even she said that she never went beyond infatuation until she met her eventual husband. Really? I immediately thought that something must be askew with her. Then she said something that I really found beautiful. She said, “I told myself that I don’t care how old I get, but I’ll never get married for the wrong reasons. And for me, there is only one right reason: and that is LOVE.” She really blew me away. Then the puzzle was solved. She is so put together, so wonderful, and so content with who she is, that she doesn’t feel the need to marry for the sake of marrying. She’s okay to spend the rest of her life alone, because she’s happy just the was she was. UNLESS she met someone she loves so much that she she’d want to be with him for the rest of her life.
And when they did their first dance, the photographer quipped, “Wow, this is probably the most romantic wedding dance I’ve ever seen.” They were dancing as if no one else was in the room. The bride was hanging on to her husband as if it were the last time she’d be doing so. They were so in love, that it was breathtaking to witness. That why we like hosting weddings. We don’t know them, but it’s light and the energy is good (usually!). And although many weddings actually turn our grimmer than a funeral, the precious few whose light shine through, are a pleasure to behold.